Wedding Guest Etiquette 101: How to Be the Perfect Guest
Attending a wedding is a special honor. You've been chosen to witness one of the most meaningful days in a couple’s life — and that comes with responsibilities beyond RSVPing “yes” and showing up. Whether you’re a seasoned wedding attendee or heading to your first celebration, understanding wedding guest etiquette helps ensure you’re a respectful, supportive, and much-appreciated presence.
Here are the top do’s and don’ts of wedding guest etiquette:
1. RSVP On Time (and Only Say Yes If You Mean It)
Weddings are meticulously planned, and every guest impacts the couple’s budget, seating chart, and catering count. RSVP by the deadline — and don’t assume a late response is better than none. If your plans change, let the couple know as soon as possible.
Pro tip: Don’t bring a plus-one unless your invitation explicitly states that you can.
2. Respect the Dress Code
Whether it’s formal, semi-formal, or “dressy casual,” dress respectfully for the occasion. Avoid wearing white (unless the couple says otherwise) and steer clear of anything too flashy or revealing that could distract from the bride and groom.
3. Arrive on Time
Showing up late — especially to the ceremony — is a big no-no. Plan to arrive 20–30 minutes early. If you do get stuck in traffic or run late, wait until an appropriate break to slip in quietly, preferably in the back.
4. Unplug During the Ceremony
Unless the couple asks guests to take photos, keep your phone put away and on silent. There’s nothing worse than a glowing screen in the background of a professional wedding photo or a ringtone during vows.
5. Be Mindful of Photos & Social Media
Before posting photos of the couple, the décor, or anything else, check if the couple has a hashtag or social media rules. Some prefer to share official photos first. Always be respectful of their wishes.
6. Don't Overindulge
Enjoy the food and drinks — that’s what they’re there for! But remember that you’re a guest at a formal celebration, not a frat party. Keep drinking in moderation, be respectful to staff, and stay on your best behavior on the dance floor.
7. Follow the Seating Chart
It’s not a suggestion — it’s a plan. The couple has spent time organizing the seating chart, so honor their decisions and stay at your assigned table unless invited to move.
8. Give a Thoughtful Gift (On Time)
Gifts don’t have to be expensive, but they should be timely and personal. If the couple has a registry, stick to it. And if you're mailing the gift, try to do so before or shortly after the big day.
9. Celebrate the Couple, Not Yourself
Keep speeches, social media captions, and interactions focused on the couple. A wedding is not the time to propose to your partner, announce a pregnancy, or dominate the spotlight. Let the couple shine.
10. Say Thank You
Before you leave, thank the couple or their parents for including you in the celebration. A kind word goes a long way after a long day of hosting.
Final Thoughts
Weddings are joyful, emotional, and often high-effort events — and being a great guest helps make the day memorable for all the right reasons. With a little courtesy, attentiveness, and celebration spirit, you’ll not only be a guest the couple is grateful for, but one they’ll never forget.
